Clarity is power

When a person shrinks his
entire personal world so much that he has just one
relationship to hold on to psychologically, he becomes
possessive of that particular relationship. His entire
emotional strength comes from that one relationship
and hence he does not want to share that relationship
with anybody else. A piece of wood when held too
close to your eyes will block even the sun from your
sight. People hold the relationship they are possessive
of so close to themselves that it makes them oblivious
of the rest of the world. Possessiveness is
psychological suffocation. Every other human being
who walks in is seen as an unwanted trespasser. Every
act gets monitored; motives are assigned; every
gesture is noted; an explanation is demanded for
everything, and every moment gets analysed. Deep
affection turns into desperate longing, and this in turn
creates pain from within. Tears of love turn into tears
of craving. Despite the fact that the relationship is still
on, you often feel alone and left out. When possessed
with possessiveness, you feel like an emotional
orphan. Why? The other person has become your
world; but for the other person, you are one more role
in his world.Remember, the gardener who is overprotective of his
plant will destroy the plant. Your possessiveness will
one day destroy the relationship. Two pillars have to
stay apart to steadily hold the roof; if the two pillars
come too close to each other, the roof will come
crashing down. Relationships flower in freedom, but
shrink in bondage.
Possessiveness and complete trust can never coexist.
Unconditional trust is the only antidote to
possessiveness. Trust your love and believe that
what is yours can never be taken away from you. And
what is not yours will never stay with you. Love,
affection and care have no diminishing value. So,
please do not reduce people into commodities by
saying - if others have you, then I cannot have you.
All of us can bask in the sun and nothing of the sun
will ever be lost. I can tell you with personal
authenticity - what is yours will remain yours even
when it is not with you.

(Fro Frozen thoughts)